Wednesday, October 3, 2018

How To Find Balance in a Woman's Life/poets united midweek motif/balance

How To Find Balance in a Woman’s Life

You speak of balance
I scan the horizon
Think of the playground see-saw
How to balance the larger child
With the smaller child?

The length can’t be equal
The larger child
Has to be nearer the center
To balance the weight

How to find balance in everyday life
The TV shows us an ugly man
Makes fun of an attack victim
The crowd laughs

I awoke writing a letter to my Daughter
To say how to avoid being the victim
Don’t be out alone
Don’t be out after dark
Don’t wear sexy clothes

Be careful what you say
Do not talk to strangers
Avoid men when you are out
Do not make eye contact
Be very careful

Why is any of this a balance in a woman’s life
Perhaps we need to examine our society
White male patriarchy
My Daughter asks how can this be right
I have no answer…

October 3, 2018






14 comments:

Susan said...

If we live as if the world we want is already here, we are in danger ... Black Lives Matter, Me Too ... you name the minority--as you do in your poem--the ugly, the ones many make fun of. I love your use of the seesaw, which reminds me so much of a kind of affirmative action. We notice the imbalance and adjust for it. And thank God for the ones who fight so more of us can be free.

Sumana Roy said...

"Don’t be out alone
Don’t be out after dark
Don’t wear sexy clothes

Be careful what you say
Do not talk to strangers
Avoid men when you are out
Do not make eye contact
Be very careful"....Is it everywhere like this? I thought it's only where I live! It's utterly sad. Sigh.

Sherry Blue Sky said...

Yes, one wonders if in other homes, people are saying to their sons "treat women with respect, be a gentleman, no means no, women are not objects"? Well done, Annell. I am sickened that crowds will laugh at such behavior, toadying to a terribly unwell, horrible man and his insatiable ego.

Therisa's World said...

Annell, I hear your words. As if, they're being spoken to someone new, in the transcommunity, to avoid becoming another stat on the police blotter for trans hate crimes.

I don't want to live my life, always filled with fear, but I do. Especially, as reality has been such a cruel teacher. So my poetry speaks for the scared woman that's writing this.

annell4 said...

Theresa, all women are scared. When a man wants to rape, he doesn't care. I am sorry Theresa, I am sorry for us all.

Old Egg said...

What is most concerning to an outsider is that leaders and politicians are being partisan regarding the matter which is now before the courts. Let the judiciary do their job (hopefully fairly and unbiased) without bias and interference.

Priscilla King said...

"Don’t be out alone
Don’t be out after dark
Don’t wear sexy clothes

Be careful what you say
Do not talk to strangers
Avoid men when you are out
Do not make eye contact
Be very careful"

Yes, it's infuriating. I've been trampling on those rules for years and have no regrets; I know how to shut a guy up, pleasure or pain being up to me. Yet I'd still tell my 19-year-old sensory-impaired niece to follow those rules. Hiss.

annell4 said...

Theresa, all women are scared. When a man wants to rape, he doesn't care. I am sorry Theresa, I am sorry for us all.

annell4 said...

Priscilla I think men are afraid of a woman like you!!! I am proud of you. It's funny I don't think anyone ever told me those rules, but there they are, and we all know them.

annell4 said...

Dear Susan Thank you for your comment.

annell4 said...

We model for our children everyday. Makes me wonder about the parents of Judge Kavanaugh.

Colonialist said...

Men as a whole are seriously in need of education in these matters. One of the ways of giving it is for more women to take measures to be ready and able to dish out a painful lesson to those that step over the line.

Anonymous said...

I read this poem a while back, but wasn't able to comment then, and have since been a bit off kilter, but I really wanted to come back here and say just how amazingly powerful this is.

I, like so many others, don't appreciate (which is a polite way of scratching the surface) the "content" - the subject matter, but can whole-heartedly appreciate how deeply you've reached here, and have given voice and light to it -

and I was so struck by the idea of waking from a dream in the act of writing a letter ...
this part of the poem is just so "everything"; it embodies the strength, the wisdom, as well as the pain of having to offer these words, as well as the anger, of necessity ... and it also speaks with a tenderness that is hidden, softly whispered, for the prayer, of "being/walking" safely in the world. It is truly a very impressive poem Annell.

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